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Volume 9, No. 2 |
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Internship Opportunity
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The Congressional Coalition
on Adoption Institute (CCAI), a nonpartisan,
nonprofit created by Congress, started the
Foster Youth Internship (FYI) Program in 2003
to raise awareness on Capitol Hill about the
needs and unique perspectives of young adults
in the United States aging out of foster care.
Each year, Congressional Members partner
with CCAI to "match" an eligible
intern to a six-week internship in their Washington
D.C. office. Interns are given a real-world
experience in a Congressional office, complete
with professional training and an educational
retreat coordinated by the Congressional Coalition
on Adoption Institute.
The Foster Youth Internship is a full-time
work experience in a Congressional office,
taking place over six weeks from June 1-July
15, 2006.
Interns are paid a small stipend that will
cover daily expenses. The CCAI FYI program
pays major expenses such as housing and transportation
to Washington, D.C. Interns must be able to
live in Washington, D.C. for the full duration
of the program.
This program is generously supported by the
Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption and the
Annie E. Casey Foundation.
Applicants for the program must either be
in the U.S. foster care system at the time
of their 18th birthday or have been adopted
from the U.S. foster care system after their
14th birthday and they must have completed
at least two years of college in a four-year
degree program. It is also important that
applicants have good writing and research
skills, plus an interest in the legislative
process.
This is a positive opportunity and resume
builder for anyone, and students in every
degree plan are encouraged to apply.
The typical substantive duties of a Congressional
Foster Youth Intern Include:
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Work directly with legislative correspondents
and legislative assistants to research
issues and compose correspondence
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Attend committee hearings, sit in on
meetings, attend press conferences, and
take notes
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Work on small legislative projects
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Constituent services
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Attend and serve at Congressional briefings
and meetings, including events organized
by CCAI for the members of the Congressional
Coalition on Adoption
The typical administrative duties of a Congressional
Foster Youth Intern:
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Open, sort, and deliver incoming mail
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Answer phones, greet constituents,
run errands, deliver priority letters,
and acquire Congressional signatures
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Copying, filing, faxing, and data entry
Applicants must submit an application form,
resume, two-page essay explaining why they
are interested in the internship, a three-page
essay discussing their views on adoption and
foster care, their own experiences, and changes
that would be made, and also two letters of
recommendation, preferably from a professor
and an employer. For more information or specific
application requirements, visit www.ccainstitute.org.
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Congratulations!
The Rockland DHHS office
has chosen their 2005 Foster Parents
of the Year. They are Erin
and Mark (William) Cummings of Westport,
and Debbie Simmons of Rockland.
Erin and Mark Cummings
have been foster parents since 1998
and have fostered several children from
the Rockland Office.
The Cummings have worked
on a very difficult case with DHHS.
They have remained patient and caring
throughout adverse circumstances; while
consistently advocating for the child's
permanency needs. Debbie Simmons is
a relative placement from the Rockland
DHHS who provided a safe home for her
five grandchildren. Debbie has worked
closely with caseworkers' in goals
of reunification and permanency planning.
Debbie is known for her ability to stay
totally focused on her grandchildren's
needs. While this may sound relatively
basic, is often gets complicated when
families care for their relative's
children.
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Other
Rockland News
The Rockland DHHS has moved
into a new building. The new address will
be 91 Camden Street, Suite 103, Rockland,
ME 04841-2421. The phone number is 596-4200
or 800-432-7802 if you have trouble finding
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Raffle Tickets For
Sale!
A beautiful quilt has been
donated to AFFM to be raffled at the Spring
Conference, Passionate for Permanency, A
Family For Every Child!
The quilt is a full/queen
size, 100% cotton and has an elegant mix
of rich, earthy colors. Tickets are available
for sale before the Conference and the raffle
is also open to those who are not attending.
Tickets are $1 each, 6 for $5, or 15 for
$10. Checks or money orders can be mailed
to AFFM, 294 Center St. Unit 1, Old Town,
ME 04468. Please include your name, address,
and phone number, so we may contact you
if you win.
If anyone would like to see
the quilt, it is at the AFFM office-the
address listed above. The quilt was made
and donated by the Homespun Angels:
JeanAnne Johnstone, Pam Allen, Jan Doughty,
Shirley Johnstone, Karen Bachelder, Ellen
Sanford, Jessica Hafford, and Erika Hoxie.
Thank you, ladies, for this
generous donation. This quilt will make
an excellent addition to a very lucky winners
home! Click
here for a peek at the quilt.
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Special
Speaker!
On Thursday, April 6th, from
6:30 to 8:30 PM, there will be a special Networking
Meeting dedicated to kinship at Verrillo's
in Portland. This is the evening before the
AFFM Conference, Passionate for Permanency,
A Family for Every Child. This is a prelude
to the Conference. All kinship providers are
urged to attend. Deborah Langosch, Ph.D.,
LCSW will facilitate the meeting and provide
an opportunity for individual discussion prior
to concluding the meeting.
Dr. Langosch is the director
of the Kinship Care Program and Chairperson
of the Brooklyn Grandparents' Coalition
at the Jewish Board of Family and Children's
Services in New York City. She also co-chairs
the New York City Kincare Task Force with
the Brookdale Center on Aging. Dr. Langosch
has been working with grandparent caregivers
and their relative children for the past fifteen
years in mental health settings and community
service agencies. She has been responsible
for the program development, fund raising,
direct service, and supervision. Dr. Langosch
has given numerous national and local presentations
on issues that kinship care families face.
In addition, she recently completed her doctoral
work at New York University School of Social
Work. The topic for her dissertation was "Grandmother's
Raising Grandchildren Due to the Death of
their Parent." She has an extensive
background in the field of loss, trauma, and
bereavement, and is also in private practice
in Brooklyn, NY.
This night is intended for all kinship providers
and those interested in kinship care. If you
are interested in attending, please call AFFM
at 1-800-833-9786 by March 31 to register. |
Residential Treatment
Residential programming continues to have
a purpose and a place in the treatment of
youth with emotional and behavioral needs.
There are some youth who need to be in a
therapeutic group environment in order to
better manage the intense emotional work
they need to do. Youth can benefit from
staff who can give them the attention they
need and tolerate intense behaviors, such
as aggression, physical violence, self harm
and other hard to manage behaviors. Residential
placement can be an effective environment
to work on an issue, which may include the
goal of moving to either independent living
or a family environment. Historically, residential
placement was used to remove youth from
an unsafe environment. The child received
treatment, but the family, or the environment,
would not. Youth were traditionally isolated
from family involvement and treatment and,
therefore, often had a difficult transition
home. By examining past and present, best
practice models residential programs in
Maine adopted a family centered approach
in permanency planning. Treatment focuses
on teaching, both youth and their families,
skills to better manage conflict, unsafe
behaviors, and other identified concerns.
When children leave the residential phase
of treatment, the continuum of care continues
to follow their foster, birth, and/or adoptive
families. Submitted by Anne Archibald, Youth
Alternatives
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S.A.F.E.
The Statewide Association of
Fostering Enterprises (SAFE) is now accepting
applications for new memberships. This is
a low cost food program to help foster parents
save money. The income guidelines have now
been expanded to accommodate more families,
so if you were denied before, it may be worthwhile
to apply again. Foster and adoptive reimbursements
are not included as part of the income of
families applying for a membership. For more
information about the program or how to apply,
call Vickie Decker at 445-2017.
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Training Opportunities!
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Fire
Prevention and Survival Skills
Did you know that 80% of fires are preventable?
This Prevention and Survival presentation
is a fact-and statistic-based program designed
to enlighten, encourage, and equip individuals
to be safe from the ravages of fire. The session
is lecture based, supplemented by PowerPoint
presentation, videos, overheads, handouts
and includes interaction with the audience.
This workshop is presented by Bill Leighton,
a Fire and Life Safety Education Coordinator
from the Maine Fire Training and Education
Program. He is a retired Fire Lieutenant from
the Bangor Fire Department (27 years), with
twenty years as a line firefighter/fire officer,
seven years as a Public Education Officer/Juvenile
Fire Setter Coordinator, and five years as
a Public Information Officer - Bangor Fire
Department. This free training will be held
February 7, from 6-9 PM at the Trade Winds
Motor Inn in Rockland. For more information
or registration, contact Jeanine Brown at
626-5285 or email jeanine.brown@maine.gov. |
Foundations:
Working with
Children Exhibiting Sexual Behavior Problems
- Introductory Module
In this two-day program, presented by Becky
Harvey and Ruth Landeen, caregivers will explore
values and beliefs regarding fostering a child
with sexual behavior problems; learn vocabulary
and terms related to sexual abuse and behavior,
identify normal sexual development and red
flags; understand experiences that can lead
to sexual behavior problems and their effects
on children and adolescents; clarify roles
and responsibilities on the treatment team;
learn ways to live safely with children with
sexual behavior problems; learn interventions
regarding behavior problems; and identify
the characteristics of ideal foster parents
for children with sexual behavior problems.
This training will be held on two Wednesdays,
February 15 and 22 from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM
both days. It is necessary to attend both
days in order to receive credit. The free
workshops will be held at Trade Winds Motor
Inn in Rockland. For more information and
registration, contact the Staff Education
and training unit at 287-9355 or email DHHS.setu@maine.gov. |
Juvenile
Fire Setters Awareness
The number of fires set by children is growing.
The United States Fire Administration reports
that between 25-40% of all fires are set by
children. Most experts agree that the best
way to understand a child's firesetting
is by looking at the context and motivation
for the behavior. Learn about the myths and
the realities of juvenile firesetting and
intervention strategies that can be used by
parents. This workshop is presented by Bill
Leighton, a Fire & Life Safety Education
Coordinator from the Maine Fire Training &
Education Program. Bill is a retired Fire
Lieutenant from Bangor Fire Department (27
years), with twenty years as a line firefighter/fire
officer, seven years as Public Education Officer/Juvenile
Fire Setter Coordinator, and five years as
Public Information Officer - Bangor Fire Department.
This free workshop will be Tuesday, February
21, from 6-9 PM at the University of Maine
at Machias. For more information or registration,
contact Jeanine Brown at 626-5285 or email
jeanine.brown@maine.gov |
Simple
Strategies for Mini-Miracles
Foster parents don't expect or demand
huge miracles... they look for the small successes
that may lead to miracles. This workshop will
offer a kaleidoscope of tried and true strategies
for handling some of the stress points of
foster parenting. Participants will leave
with specific new tools to handle homework
struggles, self-esteem, bonding, and other
common hotspots of foster parenting. Participants
are asked to come with one idea to write down
and share with the group. Gail Underwood Parker,
presenter, has raised nine children as a single,
working parent and is familiar with the challenges
of making children feel special with limited
time and money. From no cost-no time tricks,
to creating one-of-a-kind books and games,
to supporting special needs children within
a family, to building bonds, Ms. Parker offers
a wide range of possibilities. These strategies
not only make a child feel special, but address
some of the most challenging behaviors and
times that parents face. A down-to-earth teacher
and parent, her strategies are popular both
with children and the adults raising them.
This free workshop will be Saturday, March
4, from 9:00 AM-4:00 PM at the Caribou Inn
and Convention Center in Caribou. For more
information and registration call Jeanine
Brown at 626-5285 or email jeanine.brown@maine.gov. |
Teambuilding
III: The Role of Foster Parents in Meeting
the Educational
Needs Of Children with Special Needs Teambuilding
Workshops I and II
Held over the previous two years, were designed
to give foster/adoptive parents and other
child advocates basic knowledge and access
to resources necessary to successfully advocate
for special education services for children
in their care. The role and responsibilities
of the educational surrogate parent were reviewed
as well as ways to be an effective member
of the PET. Regulations and the Guide to Special
Education were used as tools in small group
work with case studies. At the end of each
day, trainers were available to respond to
individual questions regarding specific family
situations. The purpose of the 2006 workshops
is to build on the foundation described above.
The workshop will be presented by Margaret
Degon, Maine Parent
Federation, Cliff McHatten, Department of
Education, Sarah Meerse, Pine Tree Legal Association,
and Kathy Son, Center for Community Inclusion
at Umaine Orono. The design will enable the
group to capture what the current concerns
and/or questions are of the group in obtaining
special education services and to conduct
a problem-solving session. An attorney will
discuss ‘due process' when foster/adoptive
parents have explored all other options. Participants
will be encouraged to engage in self-reflection
to see how their style of interaction moves
the process forward or hinders resolution.
This free workshop will be held Wednesday,
March 8, from 9:00 AM-3:00 PM at the University
of Maine at Machias. For more information
and registration call Jeanine Brown at 626-5285
or email jeanine.brown@maine.gov. |
Behavior
Management Strategies for Foster and Adoptive
Parents
Parenting can—at times—seem
like a never-ending challenge. As you well
know, choosing the right behavior management
approach can be a hit or miss experience.
This training, presented by Doreen Allen,
is designed to provide practical skills to
address some of the challenging behaviors
by children in your care. Participants will
learn positive behavior management techniques
such as natural and logical consequences,
time out, and choices. Additionally, participants
will learn how a parent's own behaviors
and attitudes impact the behavior of the child.
Finally, participants will gain a better understanding
of Department of Health and Human Services
rules for child behavior management. This
free workshop will be held Thursday, March
9, from 9:00 AM-4:00 PM at DHHS in Portland.
For more information and registration, contact
the Staff Education and training unit at 287-9355
or email DHHS.setu@maine.gov. |
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Family Fun Trivia
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What is the largest
human organ?
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Who was the first U.S. President
to live in the White House?
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Besides the U.S., Canada, and Mexico,
what are the only other three nations
to
celebrate Valentines Day?
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What percentage of U.S. women send
themselves flowers on Valentines Day?
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What were the first domesticated
animals?
Answers
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Win a Weeklong Vacation
at Tamarack! |
The Wilhelm Reich Museum is
owned and operated by The Wilhelm Reich Infant
Trust. This Trust was established by world
renowned scientist, Wilhelm Reich, in his
Last Will and Testament. The Trust maintains
the property at Orgonon under the name and
style of the Wilhelm Reich Museum. On this
land is his cabin, Tamarack. Mr. Reich's
Will also stated that Tamarack be used as
a "summer home for children."
The Trust has chosen a way to fulfill this
final wish by making Tamarack available for
adoptive, foster, and kinship families for
eight weeks in the summer! This opportunity
is available to those that might not have
another means of this type of vacation.
Mary Higgins, trustee, works with AFFM on
this opportunity annually.
The cabin is located on the grounds of Orgonon,
formerly the home, laboratory, and research
center of Wilhelm Reich. Orgonon is located
just off of the Dodge Pond Road in Rangeley.
Tamarack is about 75 yards away from Dodge
Pond. Because the pond is a natural nesting
place for loons, power boats, jet skis, and
recreational vehicles (i.e. four wheelers)
are all strictly prohibited. Rowboats and
canoes are permitted. At the foot of the path
leading to the pond is a floating platform,
a great spot for shore fishing, sunbathing,
and jumping in the water. The water is deep
and the area is quite rocky. Children will
require careful supervision and non-swimmers
will require life jackets.
Tamarack is a large, charming, 3 bedroom,
1 bath cabin with a comfortable interior.
Tamarack has a complete kitchen with a full
size refrigerator and gas stove, and a beautiful
living room with a stone fireplace. The camp
does not have a phone or television. Families
need to provide their own food and bedding.
The Tamarack vacation opportunity is designed
for the families who otherwise might not be
able to afford a vacation, so there are certain
eligibility requirements that apply. To be
eligible, you must not own or have access
to a summer camp, time-share, or RV. Also,
if you have been a Tamarack winner in 2004
or 2005, we ask that you not apply. The drawing
will be held March 24th and winners will be
notified by phone or email by March 28th.
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Many families dearly want to
utilize Tamarack. It is necessary that any
winners who cannot attend please notify AFFM
at least one week in advance. It is important
to have time to find an alternate family and
give them time to prepare for their vacation,
so this beautiful cabin can be enjoyed throughout
the heart of the summer.
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Call it a clan, call it
a network, call it a tribe, call it
a family. Whatever you call it, whoever
you are, you need one.
-Jane
Howard
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When I was a boy of fourteen,
my father was so ignorant I could hardly
stand to have the old man around. But when
I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished
at how much he had learned in seven years.
-Mark
Twain
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Never tell a young person
that something cannot be done. God may
have been waiting for centuries for somebody
ignorant enough of the impossibility to
do that thing.
-Dr.
J. A. Holmes
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I've learned that it's
hard to lie when you are looking into your
mom's eyes.
-Age 9
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There are three ways to
get something done: do it yourself, hire
someone, or forbid your kids to do it.
-Monta
Crane
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Some people are born on third
base and go through life thinking they hit
a triple.
-Barry Switzer
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Always acknowledge your
child's wounds, no matter how slight.
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First it is necessary to stand
on your own two feet. But the minute a man
finds himself in that position, the next thing
he should do is reach out his arms.
-Kristin
Hunter
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Let your children overhear
you saying nice things about them to other
adults.
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It is our choices...that show
what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
-J.K. Rowling
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When Alexander the Great
visited Diogenes and asked whether he
could do
anything for the famed teacher, Diogenes
replied: 'Only stand out of my light.'
Perhaps some day we shall know how to
heighten creativity. Until then, one of
the best things we can do for creative
men and women is to stand out of their
light.
-John
W. Gardner
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It's not enough that we do our
best; sometimes we have to do what's required.
-Sir Winston
Churchill
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Children require guidance
and sympathy far more than instruction.
-Annie
Sullivan
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I started concentrating so hard
on my vision that I lost sight.
-Robin Green
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Foster Families of Maine, Inc.
Published with support from
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Adoptive & Foster Families of Maine
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Patience is a Virtue…
A kindergarten student asked
his teacher for help putting his boots on.
As soon as she started, she could see why
he needed help. With her pulling and him
pushing, the boots still didn't want
to go on. By the time the second boot was
on, she had worked up a sweat. She almost
whimpered when the little boy said, "Teacher,
they're on the wrong feet."
She looked, and sure enough, they were.
It wasn't any easier pulling the boots
off than it was putting them on. She managed
to keep her cool as, together, they worked
to get the boots back on-this time on the
right feet.
He then announced, "These
aren't my boots." She bit her
tongue rather than get right in his face
and scream, "Why didn't you
say so?" like she wanted to do. Once
again, she struggled to help him pull the
ill-fitting boots off.
He then said, "They're
my brother's boots. My Mom made me
wear them." She didn't know
if she should laugh or cry. She then mustered
up the grace to wrestle the boots onto his
feet again.
She said, "Now, where
are your mittens?"
He said, "I stuffed
them in the toes of my boots…"
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Answers to Family Fun Trivia
from above...
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The skin-average surface area of a person's
skin is about 25 square feet;
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John Adams. George Washington oversaw
the construction, but he never lived there;
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France, Australia, and the U.K.;
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15%;
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Dogs
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