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Volume 8, No. 8 |
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Camp Communicate
Camp Communicate is designed
to empower children who use Augmentative
and Alternative Communication Devices, their
families, and professionals. The camp gives
kids a typical summer camp environment with
their peers as well as unique
communication opportunities that will increase
their proficiency with their AAC device.
Parents will also learn ways to more effectively
support the use of the device in home and
recreation settings. By increasing the use
of the device at home the children will
become more proficient in their use at school.
Parents will also have the opportunity to
share information and strategies with each
other in a supportive environment. The camp
is hosted by Pine Tree Camp and Communication
Pathways, both programs of Pine Tree Society.
Camp Communicate is located at Pine Tree
Camp in the Belgrade Lakes area. For more
information you can call (207) 443-3341
ext. 104, email
tberkowitz@pinetreesociety.org,
or check out their website, www.pinetreesociety.org.
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Fostering Adoption to Further Student
Achievement Act
A new bill, proposed
June 22, 2005, could be good news for
foster and adopted teens throughout
the country! The ‘Fostering Adoption
to Further Student Achievement Act,'
proposed by Senator Norm Coleman of
Minnesota along with Senator Mary Landreiu
of Louisiana, is an amendment to the
independent student section of the Higher
Education Act of 1965. The amendment
adds to the definition of independent
student to include students who were
"…adopted from the foster
care system when the individual was
13 years of age or older." What
does this mean? It means that, when
a child between the ages of 13 and 17
is adopted, they would not need to include
their adoptive parents' income
when applying for financial aid for
school. The only income they would need
to include is their own. There are many
reasons for this proposed amendment.
One is that it is unreasonable to assume
that parents adopting a child in this
age bracket would have enough time to
adequately save for a college fund.
The way it stands now, there are situations
where teens could really be hurting
themselves to be adopted because they
would lose a significant amount of aid.
However, studies have found that of
students who have "aged out"
of foster care (turned 18 without being
adopted) within three years
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Only 54% had earned their high school
diploma
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Only 14% had graduated from a four-year
college
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Between 25-44% had experienced homelessness
The goal is to increase teen adoption
to keep more adolescents out of these
statistics. Coleman states, "The
benefits of family and education should
go hand in hand, not stand in opposition
to each other. This bill would ensure
that foster children don't have
to make an impossible choice between
a family or an education." AFFM
needs to wait to see if the bill passes,
but it looks like a step in the right
direction! As this comes to closer to
realization, the State of Maine will
be looking further into this amendment
and its suitability here. In the meantime,
for more information you can go to http://coleman.senate.gov and look under ‘Issues-Education.'
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The AFFM 1st Annual Walk-A-Thon held
Saturday, June 11 was a success! (some of
the participants shown on left) Information
about upcoming events can be found below!
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Team Building
Training
The Team Building Training
originally scheduled for June 29th has
been rescheduled for August 16th
from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM. The training
will be held right at the AFFM office
at 294 Center St. in Old Town. This
training is for adoptive, foster, and
kinship
providers, caseworkers, teachers, and
other children's advocates. The
training will focus on how to build
effective partnerships between home
and school for children with special
needs. There will be a roundtable discussion
to focus on resources designed to help
parents increase their skills to advocate
for their children. The goal is to help
parents develop effective partnerships
between home and school. By using a
roundtable interaction, the participants
will be able to draw on the knowledge
and experiences of all involved. The
facilitator for this training, Kathy
Son, a research associate for Community
Inclusion and Disabilities, is the mother
of a child with disabilities and a former
therapeutic foster parent. To register
call AFFM at 1-800-833-9786. Training
hours and completion certificates will
be provided.
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Fun Family Trivia
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What is the only US State
that grows cacao beans to produce chocolate?
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Why should you avoid eating
bananas in the woods?
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What month begins on the
same day of the week as August?
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What are succedaneous teeth?
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Why do mosquitoes avoid
citronella?
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A successful marriage requires falling
in love many times,
always with the same person.
-Mignon McLaughlin
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Nurturing Workshop
AFFM will hold a Nurturing
Workshop at the Caribou Motor Inn in Presque
Isle August 13 &14, 2005. The
training is designed to provide couples
attending a wonderful opportunity to get
in touch with their partners, re-discover
what drew them to one another, and discover
how differently they may respond as parents.
The goal is to assist foster, adoptive,
and kinship parents in a greater ability
to compliment one another in their parenting
styles as well as reduce the risk of becoming
involved in
triangulation created by a needy child.
The trainers are Catherine Charette and
Steffan Duplessis. There is no registration
fee and the overnight hotel accommodation
is free to those who reside more than 40
minutes from the training site. Dinner Saturday
night is provided as part of the training
package. Saturday lunch and Sunday breakfast
are the responsibility of the participants.
To register call 800-833-9786 and ask for
Connie or click
here to fill out our web form.
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Don't
Miss Out!
High school fall sports
start August 15th around the state!
Sports are a great way to get kids involved
and interested in school. It can also
help build relationships and trust with
other students while developing something
special for themselves. If your high
school students think they might be
interested, get in touch with your school's
superintendent's office immediately
to get your paperwork. It's a
lot harder to start if you miss the
first day, so encourage them to try
it now!
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Enduring
Success: Helping Parents to Build Success
with Challenging Children
The Child Welfare Training
Institute will be hosting an upcoming workshop
for parenting children with difficult pasts.
Dr. Frank Kunstal is the trainer for this
workshop and has been involved in treating
children and families for more than 27 years
all over the world and still enjoys it.
The first part of this workshop will look
at ways in which families can provide the
best opportunities for challenging children
to grow and change, regardless of their
pasts. Dr. Kunstal will highlight
the necessary changing power of the care
of a loving, therapeutic family in altering
the course of formerly "unnatural
childhoods." Effective, everyday parenting,
caring discipline, practical guidelines,
and common-sensed and creative family strategies
will be reviewed, with the overarching goal
of changing negative and seemingly intractable
behavior and effectively enduring with such
challenging children. In the latter
part of this workshop, consideration will
be given to the needs of children from a
variety of different backgrounds.
Caregivers of all types report certain universal
understandings and practices in the effective
raising of hurt children. Using both
successful and unsuccessful experiences
of effective parents and professionals,
Dr. Kunstal will close the workshop by forming
some basic "Commandments of Parenting."
The trainings will be held Friday, September
23 from 9AM to 4PM in Bangor and Saturday
September 24 from 9AM to 4PM in Portland.
To register, contact Jeanine Brown at CWTI
at 626-5285 or jeanine.brown@maine.gov.
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Save the Date!
September 11th is Grandparents'
Day! In honor of this special day all
of the kinship families will be receiving
an invitation to a picnic and a tour of
the Owls Head Transportation Museum in
Owls Head. The museum has aircraft, automobiles,
motorcycles, carriages, bicycles, and
engines-all with a variety of displays
in each category! You can look forward
to receiving a letter in the mail outlining
all of the details. If you are a kinship
provider and haven't received your
letter by the end of August, please call
1-800-833-9786 and let AFFM know.
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Strive for excellence, not perfection. - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
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WHAT KEEPS CHILDREN IN FOSTER CARE FROM
SUCCEEDING IN SCHOOL?
Views of Early Adolescents
and the Adults in Their Lives A large
portion of the half million children in
foster care nationwide perform poorly
in school. They lag behind their non-foster
peers academically and are more likely
to have behavior and discipline problems.
This study draws on interviews with foster
children and adults to better understand
how being in foster care affects a child's
education on a day-to-day basis, and how
the adults around these children can help
them perform more successfully in school.
Vera researchers studied the educational
experiences of 25 children in foster care
who were participating in an experimental
program designed to improve their achievement.
We recorded extensive narratives from
each child about the educational obstacles
they face at the four Bronx middle schools
they attend, and we interviewed 54 key
adults in their lives (school staff, foster
parents, and caseworkers) to learn what
they regard as obstacles to the children's
educational success. We found that foster
children face roadblocks that other economically
disadvantaged children do not face, roadblocks
that can affect their academic performance.
The children had concerns about maintaining
ties with their biological parents and
caring for siblings that often distracted
them from schoolwork. Mandated court appearances
and doctors' appointments caused them
to miss school frequently. Behavior problems—both
aggression and withdrawing—which
may be rooted in pre-placement trauma,
kept them from focusing on school. And
they often avoided social interactions
with peers in order to keep their foster
status hidden. Yet they blamed themselves—not
foster care or the schools—for their
poor academic achievement. The adults
in these foster children's lives often
lacked a full picture of their educational
needs. Foster parents were most concerned
with the children's behavior; they rarely
expressed concern with their foster children's
poor grades, and most did not regularly
help with homework. Caseworkers often
were not aware of their academic progress,
focusing instead on the frequent crises
that characterize foster care. School
staff usually had little knowledge of
a child's foster care background and how
bureaucratic demands of the system might
explain missed tests or assignments. No
one acknowledged primary responsibility
for the educational progress of these
children. We conclude that establishing
primary responsibility for educational
matters in each case would be a useful
reform, along with increased cooperation
between the child welfare system and schools
on several specific issues. Greater information
sharing could help—in particular,
giving caseworkers access to children's
academic records and giving teachers and
other school staff information about a
child's foster situation. Foster parents
could be encouraged and supported to take
a more active role in promoting their
children's academic success. Finally,
school staff could benefit from basic
training on how the child welfare system
works, the specific demands it makes on
children, and its consequences for a child's
development.
Provided by the National
Advocate, Summer 2005 edition
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Grandma is Raising
the Kids; Let's Help
On August 9th Family and Children
Together (F.A.C.T.) is holding a free training
on kinship care in Maine. The training is
targeted toward people working in the fields
of education, mental health, law, social services,
and physical health with some knowledge or
experience related to the topic. The training
will be held at Casey Family Services at 75
Washington Street in Portland. For more information
email npeters@familiesandchildren.org.
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Adoption Announcements!
Randy and Jenn Hogan, along
with Chuck, Chris, and Brianna are pleased
to announce the finalization of the adoption
of their newest family member, Mary-Allison
Doris Hogan, on June 1st!
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Ben and Karen Redman of Machias are pleased
to announce the adoption of 11 year old Jesse
Waycott Redman. The adoption was finalized
on June 14, 2005. Jesse joins twin siblings,
Joshua and Jessica(15), and grown siblings,
Daniel and Sarah.
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Patti and Steve Bechard
are pleased to announce the adoption of
five year old Celina
Marie Bechard. The adoption was finalized
June 27, 2005.
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Parade!
Hampden Children's Day
is August 20! There will be a parade at 11:00
and AFFM will be holding a bike decorating
at 9:30 in front of Reeds Brook Middle School
for all kids that would like to decorate their
bikes to ride in the parade. The parade route
will begin at Reeds Brook Middle School and
end at Graves Supermarket. AFFM will provide
the decorations, and you provide the wheels
and helmets! For more information call 800-833-9786
and ask for Julie or click
here to fill out our web form.
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Folk Festival
After the success of the
National Folk Festival in Bangor over
the last 3 years, Bangor is now hosting
the first American Folk Festival on the
Bangor Waterfront August 26-28. There
will be over 20 groups performing on 5
stages, as well as dancing, crafts,
storytelling, and food! It's free
to all with something for everyone. Check
it out!
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Hoops
4 Hope
On August 13 at 10:00 AM there will be a 3
on 3 basketball tournament to benefit
Adoptive and Foster Families of Maine! The tournament
is being organized by a group of 7 young men
from Summit View between the ages of 16 and
20 who have decided to turn their shared passion
for basketball into a rewarding fundraising
event to aid families providing foster care.
They have selected AFFM to benefit from the
proceeds of this event after learning about
the agency and its services. Currently the boys
are working on the Hoops 4 Hope project with
the support and backing of the Youth Ideas and
Partnership Project Coordinator (YIPP), Catherine
Hamel, as well as Summit View
Program Staff. YIPP, of Penquis CAP, gives youth
the opportunities to take a leading role in
their community through community service work.
The categories for the
tournament are 14-18 year olds, and 18 and above.
Teams may have 3-5 players and must pre-register
by August 5th. The cost is $10 per person, with
a 3 game minimum. For more information or to
register, please contact Catherine Hamel at
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New Library Gem! |
Play
Therapy for Severe Psychological Trauma is an instructive video that explains the signs
of post traumatic stress in children. It provides
ways to deal with this disorder through specific
play techniques. Eliana Gil, a licensed family,
marriage, and child counselor, discusses how
these techniques can be effective in helping
the child move on from a traumatic incident.
The video also shows what dissociation looks
like, why it occurs, and how therapy can help.
Explained in the video are characteristics of
post traumatic play and the proper ways to intervene
when this type of play becomes harmful. Included
with this video is a manual that further elaborates
on concepts addressed in the video. Play Therapy
for Severe Psychological Trauma is available
to be borrowed from the AFFM library.
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Answers
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What is the only US State
that grows cacao beans to produce chocolate? Hawaii.
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Why should you avoid eating
bananas in the woods? Consuming bananas
makes you a more likely target for mosquitoes.
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What month begins on the
same day of the week as August? February-but only during
a leap year!
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What are succedaneous teeth? The permanent teeth that
replace your baby teeth.
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Why do mosquitoes avoid
citronella? It irritates
their feet.
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FAMILY TIES the Newsletter of Adoptive &
Foster Families of Maine, Inc.
Published with support from
: the Maine Dept. of Human Services
Please direct comments to:
Editor, Family Ties
Adoptive & Foster Families of Maine
294 Center Street, Unit 1
Old Town, ME 04468.
Web form.
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A lamb was grazing with a
flock of sheep one day. She soon found some
sweet grass at the edge of the field. Farther
and farther she went, away from the others.
She was enjoying herself so much that she
did not notice a wolf coming nearer to her.
However, when it pounced on her, she was
quick to start pleading, "Please, please
don't eat me yet. My stomach is full of
grass. If you wait a while, I will taste
much better." The wolf thought that
was a good idea, so he sat down and waited.
After a while, the lamb said, " If
you allow me to dance, the grass in my stomach
will be digested faster." Again the
wolf agreed. While the lamb was dancing,
she had a new idea. She said, " Please
take the bell from around my neck. If you
ring it as hard as you can, I will be able
to dance even faster." The wolf took
the bell and rang it as hard as he could.
The shepherd heard the bell ringing and
quickly sent his dogs to find the missing
lamb. The barking dogs frightened the wolf
away and saved the lamb's life.
Moral: The gentle and
weak can sometimes be more clever than the
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