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Family Ties Newsletter
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Volume 8, No. 8

NEWSLETTER

August, 2005

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Camp Communicate

Camp Communicate is designed to empower children who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication Devices, their families, and professionals. The camp gives kids a typical summer camp environment with their peers as well as unique
communication opportunities that will increase their proficiency with their AAC device. Parents will also learn ways to more effectively support the use of the device in home and recreation settings. By increasing the use of the device at home the children will become more proficient in their use at school. Parents will also have the opportunity to share information and strategies with each other in a supportive environment. The camp is hosted by Pine Tree Camp and Communication Pathways, both programs of Pine Tree Society. Camp Communicate is located at Pine Tree Camp in the Belgrade Lakes area. For more information you can call (207) 443-3341 ext. 104, email
tberkowitz@pinetreesociety.org, or check out their website, www.pinetreesociety.org.

Fostering Adoption to Further Student Achievement Act

A new bill, proposed June 22, 2005, could be good news for foster and adopted teens throughout the country! The ‘Fostering Adoption to Further Student Achievement Act,' proposed by Senator Norm Coleman of Minnesota along with Senator Mary Landreiu of Louisiana, is an amendment to the independent student section of the Higher Education Act of 1965. The amendment adds to the definition of independent student to include students who were "…adopted from the foster care system when the individual was 13 years of age or older." What does this mean? It means that, when a child between the ages of 13 and 17 is adopted, they would not need to include their adoptive parents' income when applying for financial aid for school. The only income they would need to include is their own. There are many reasons for this proposed amendment. One is that it is unreasonable to assume that parents adopting a child in this age bracket would have enough time to adequately save for a college fund. The way it stands now, there are situations where teens could really be hurting themselves to be adopted because they would lose a significant amount of aid. However, studies have found that of students who have "aged out" of foster care (turned 18 without being adopted) within three years

  • Only 54% had earned their high school diploma

  • Only 14% had graduated from a four-year college

  • Between 25-44% had experienced homelessness


The goal is to increase teen adoption to keep more adolescents out of these statistics. Coleman states, "The benefits of family and education should go hand in hand, not stand in opposition to each other. This bill would ensure that foster children don't have to make an impossible choice between a family or an education." AFFM needs to wait to see if the bill passes, but it looks like a step in the right direction! As this comes to closer to realization, the State of Maine will be looking further into this amendment and its suitability here. In the meantime, for more information you can go to http://coleman.senate.gov and look under ‘Issues-Education.'

walkathon group photoThe AFFM 1st Annual Walk-A-Thon held
Saturday, June 11 was a success! (some of the participants shown on left) Information about upcoming events can be found below!

Team Building Training

The Team Building Training originally scheduled for June 29th has been rescheduled for August 16th from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM. The training will be held right at the AFFM office at 294 Center St. in Old Town. This training is for adoptive, foster, and kinship providers, caseworkers, teachers, and other children's advocates. The training will focus on how to build effective partnerships between home and school for children with special needs. There will be a roundtable discussion to focus on resources designed to help parents increase their skills to advocate for their children. The goal is to help parents develop effective partnerships between home and school. By using a roundtable interaction, the participants will be able to draw on the knowledge and experiences of all involved. The facilitator for this training, Kathy Son, a research associate for Community Inclusion and Disabilities, is the mother of a child with disabilities and a former therapeutic foster parent. To register call AFFM at 1-800-833-9786. Training hours and completion certificates will be provided.

Fun Family Trivia

  • What is the only US State that grows cacao beans to produce chocolate?

  • Why should you avoid eating bananas in the woods?

  • What month begins on the same day of the week as August?

  • What are succedaneous teeth?

  • Why do mosquitoes avoid citronella?

Answers at bottom of page.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times,
always with the same person.
-Mignon McLaughlin

Nurturing Workshop

AFFM will hold a Nurturing Workshop at the Caribou Motor Inn in Presque Isle August 13 &14, 2005. The training is designed to provide couples attending a wonderful opportunity to get in touch with their partners, re-discover what drew them to one another, and discover how differently they may respond as parents. The goal is to assist foster, adoptive, and kinship parents in a greater ability to compliment one another in their parenting styles as well as reduce the risk of becoming involved in triangulation created by a needy child. The trainers are Catherine Charette and Steffan Duplessis. There is no registration fee and the overnight hotel accommodation is free to those who reside more than 40 minutes from the training site. Dinner Saturday night is provided as part of the training package. Saturday lunch and Sunday breakfast are the responsibility of the participants. To register call 800-833-9786 and ask for Connie or click here to fill out our web form.

Don't Miss Out!

High school fall sports start August 15th around the state! Sports are a great way to get kids involved and interested in school. It can also help build relationships and trust with other students while developing something special for themselves. If your high school students think they might be interested, get in touch with your school's superintendent's office immediately to get your paperwork. It's a lot harder to start if you miss the first day, so encourage them to try it now!

Enduring Success: Helping Parents to Build Success with Challenging Children

The Child Welfare Training Institute will be hosting an upcoming workshop for parenting children with difficult pasts. Dr. Frank Kunstal is the trainer for this workshop and has been involved in treating children and families for more than 27 years all over the world and still enjoys it. The first part of this workshop will look at ways in which families can provide the best opportunities for challenging children to grow and change, regardless of their pasts.  Dr. Kunstal will highlight the necessary changing power of the care of a loving, therapeutic family in altering the course of formerly "unnatural childhoods." Effective, everyday parenting, caring discipline, practical guidelines, and common-sensed and creative family strategies will be reviewed, with the overarching goal of changing negative and seemingly intractable behavior and effectively enduring with such challenging children. In the latter part of this workshop, consideration will be given to the needs of children from a variety of different backgrounds.  Caregivers of all types report certain universal understandings and practices in the effective raising of hurt children.  Using both successful and unsuccessful experiences of effective parents and professionals, Dr. Kunstal will close the workshop by forming some basic "Commandments of Parenting." The trainings will be held Friday, September 23 from 9AM to 4PM in Bangor and Saturday September 24 from 9AM to 4PM in Portland. To register, contact Jeanine Brown at CWTI at 626-5285 or jeanine.brown@maine.gov.

Save the Date!

September 11th is Grandparents' Day! In honor of this special day all of the kinship families will be receiving an invitation to a picnic and a tour of the Owls Head Transportation Museum in Owls Head. The museum has aircraft, automobiles, motorcycles, carriages, bicycles, and engines-all with a variety of displays in each category! You can look forward to receiving a letter in the mail outlining all of the details. If you are a kinship provider and haven't received your letter by the end of August, please call 1-800-833-9786 and let AFFM know.

Strive for excellence, not perfection. - H. Jackson Brown Jr.

WHAT KEEPS CHILDREN IN FOSTER CARE FROM SUCCEEDING IN SCHOOL?

Views of Early Adolescents and the Adults in Their Lives A large portion of the half million children in foster care nationwide perform poorly in school. They lag behind their non-foster peers academically and are more likely to have behavior and discipline problems. This study draws on interviews with foster children and adults to better understand how being in foster care affects a child's education on a day-to-day basis, and how the adults around these children can help them perform more successfully in school. Vera researchers studied the educational experiences of 25 children in foster care who were participating in an experimental program designed to improve their achievement. We recorded extensive narratives from each child about the educational obstacles they face at the four Bronx middle schools they attend, and we interviewed 54 key adults in their lives (school staff, foster parents, and caseworkers) to learn what they regard as obstacles to the children's educational success. We found that foster children face roadblocks that other economically disadvantaged children do not face, roadblocks that can affect their academic performance. The children had concerns about maintaining ties with their biological parents and caring for siblings that often distracted them from schoolwork. Mandated court appearances and doctors' appointments caused them to miss school frequently. Behavior problems—both aggression and withdrawing—which may be rooted in pre-placement trauma, kept them from focusing on school. And they often avoided social interactions with peers in order to keep their foster status hidden. Yet they blamed themselves—not foster care or the schools—for their poor academic achievement. The adults in these foster children's lives often lacked a full picture of their educational needs. Foster parents were most concerned with the children's behavior; they rarely expressed concern with their foster children's poor grades, and most did not regularly help with homework. Caseworkers often were not aware of their academic progress, focusing instead on the frequent crises that characterize foster care. School staff usually had little knowledge of a child's foster care background and how bureaucratic demands of the system might explain missed tests or assignments. No one acknowledged primary responsibility for the educational progress of these children. We conclude that establishing primary responsibility for educational matters in each case would be a useful reform, along with increased cooperation between the child welfare system and schools on several specific issues. Greater information sharing could help—in particular, giving caseworkers access to children's academic records and giving teachers and other school staff information about a child's foster situation. Foster parents could be encouraged and supported to take a more active role in promoting their children's academic success. Finally, school staff could benefit from basic training on how the child welfare system works, the specific demands it makes on children, and its consequences for a child's development.

Provided by the National Advocate, Summer 2005 edition

Grandma is Raising the Kids; Let's Help

On August 9th Family and Children Together (F.A.C.T.) is holding a free training on kinship care in Maine. The training is targeted toward people working in the fields of education, mental health, law, social services, and physical health with some knowledge or experience related to the topic. The training will be held at Casey Family Services at 75 Washington Street in Portland. For more information email npeters@familiesandchildren.org.

Adoption Announcements!

Randy and Jenn Hogan, along with Chuck, Chris, and Brianna are pleased to announce the finalization of the adoption of their newest family member, Mary-Allison Doris Hogan, on June 1st!


Ben and Karen Redman of Machias are pleased to announce the adoption of 11 year old Jesse Waycott Redman. The adoption was finalized on June 14, 2005. Jesse joins twin siblings, Joshua and Jessica(15), and grown siblings, Daniel and Sarah.

Patti and Steve Bechard are pleased to announce the adoption of five year old Celina
Marie Bechard. The adoption was finalized June 27, 2005.

Parade!

Hampden Children's Day is August 20! There will be a parade at 11:00 and AFFM will be holding a bike decorating at 9:30 in front of Reeds Brook Middle School for all kids that would like to decorate their bikes to ride in the parade. The parade route will begin at Reeds Brook Middle School and end at Graves Supermarket. AFFM will provide the decorations, and you provide the wheels and helmets! For more information call 800-833-9786 and ask for Julie or click here to fill out our web form.

Folk Festival

After the success of the National Folk Festival in Bangor over the last 3 years, Bangor is now hosting the first American Folk Festival on the Bangor Waterfront August 26-28. There will be over 20 groups performing on 5 stages, as well as dancing, crafts,
storytelling, and food! It's free to all with something for everyone. Check it out!

Hoops 4 Hope

On August 13 at 10:00 AM there will be a 3 on 3 basketball tournament to benefit
Adoptive and Foster Families of Maine! The tournament is being organized by a group of 7 young men from Summit View between the ages of 16 and 20 who have decided to turn their shared passion for basketball into a rewarding fundraising event to aid families providing foster care. They have selected AFFM to benefit from the proceeds of this event after learning about the agency and its services. Currently the boys are working on the Hoops 4 Hope project with the support and backing of the Youth Ideas and Partnership Project Coordinator (YIPP), Catherine Hamel, as well as Summit View Program Staff. YIPP, of Penquis CAP, gives youth the opportunities to take a leading role in their community through community service work. The categories for the tournament are 14-18 year olds, and 18 and above. Teams may have 3-5 players and must pre-register by August 5th. The cost is $10 per person, with a 3 game minimum. For more information or to register, please contact Catherine Hamel at 973-3617.

New Library Gem!

Play Therapy for Severe Psychological Trauma is an instructive video that explains the signs of post traumatic stress in children. It provides ways to deal with this disorder through specific play techniques. Eliana Gil, a licensed family, marriage, and child counselor, discusses how these techniques can be effective in helping the child move on from a traumatic incident. The video also shows what dissociation looks like, why it occurs, and how therapy can help. Explained in the video are characteristics of post traumatic play and the proper ways to intervene when this type of play becomes harmful. Included with this video is a manual that further elaborates on concepts addressed in the video. Play Therapy for Severe Psychological Trauma is available to be borrowed from the AFFM library.

Answers

  • What is the only US State that grows cacao beans to produce chocolate? Hawaii.

  • Why should you avoid eating bananas in the woods? Consuming bananas makes you a more likely target for mosquitoes.

  • What month begins on the same day of the week as August? February-but only during a leap year!

  • What are succedaneous teeth? The permanent teeth that replace your baby teeth.

  • Why do mosquitoes avoid citronella? It irritates their feet.

FAMILY TIES the Newsletter of Adoptive & Foster Families of Maine, Inc.

Published with support from : the Maine Dept. of Human Services

Please direct comments to:
Editor, Family Ties
Adoptive & Foster Families of Maine
294 Center Street, Unit 1
Old Town, ME 04468.

Web form.

A lamb was grazing with a flock of sheep one day. She soon found some sweet grass at the edge of the field. Farther and farther she went, away from the others. She was enjoying herself so much that she did not notice a wolf coming nearer to her. However, when it pounced on her, she was quick to start pleading, "Please, please don't eat me yet. My stomach is full of grass. If you wait a while, I will taste much better." The wolf thought that was a good idea, so he sat down and waited. After a while, the lamb said, " If you allow me to dance, the grass in my stomach will be digested faster." Again the wolf agreed. While the lamb was dancing, she had a new idea. She said, " Please take the bell from around my neck. If you ring it as hard as you can, I will be able to dance even faster." The wolf took the bell and rang it as hard as he could. The shepherd heard the bell ringing and quickly sent his dogs to find the missing lamb. The barking dogs frightened the wolf away and saved the lamb's life.

Moral: The gentle and weak can sometimes be more clever than the fierce and strong.

 

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